Starting a New Decade. Today I turn 30
Today I turn 30 years old. This is the age I feared the most for the longest. This is the age when kids start to say you are “old”. This is the age when you say bye to your youth and to your 20’s. It is weird because a part of me still feels “young” and as if I was 20 something trying to figure out this whole adult thing going on here. My 20’s brought a lot to me, I became a mom at 20 years old and also got married that same year. In a way my 20’s shaped me into the woman I am today. I always felt like an old soul and felt this is where I needed to be and who I wanted to be. While many adults use their early 20’s to figure out who they are I felt I already knew myself. Never felt I was missing out on something.
I would say we are all still trying to figure out adulthood, parenting, and life in general. They say 3o’s will be the best decade of your life so I now feel excited and ready to see what is yet to come in the years ahead.
So here are 10 things I did and 10 things I learned
Things I did:
- I became a mom. At 20 I welcomed my first born, at 22 I had my daughter and at 25 I had my youngest and last baby.
- I purchased my first home at 21.
- I started a blog to talk about motherhood and found a community of supportive woman who were in the same space in life like me.
- I quit my job of 12 years at 29
- I started my own business working from home and had made it my full time job
- I traveled by myself
- I did therapy to find myself again
- I started saving
- I provided dream vacations for my kids that I only dreamed of as a child
- I stopped settling for less than what I know I am worth.
Things that I learned:
- Don’t dwell on your mistakes. You have to learn to accept them and learn from them and simply move on to be better.
- Take criticism- the good and the bad. This one was a tough one for me. I have always looked for approval or acceptance from others and would be so hurt when I felt I wasn’t good enough on something. I have learned to be less sensitive and toughen up. There is always room to grow.
- It is okay to say no. You have to do what is best for you.
- Buy experiences and not things. I am so happy we started doing this in the last few years. I finally learned family experiences together is worth so much more than on one day event parties that were never good enough for others. We learned spending money on our children to explore new places was the best investment for memories that will last a lifetime versus material things.
- Maintain friendships that are sincere and true. Keep those that are supportive and cheer you on always. Having a few great friends is better than keeping a big group of fake ones. I think these are the years were you will see who is good for you and who is not and who fits your lifestyle. Sometimes people just outgrow each other, and that is okay.
- Ignore the noise. Block all things and people who bring negativity to your life. If it disrupts your peace it is not worth it.
- Take the risk, it will pay off.
- Love yourself, even when you feel at your lowest. They say the longest relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Trough self love, self care, and continuing to do what I love I have found the best version of me.
- You can never take too many photos. I know many who like to live in the moment but there’s never been a time I have regretted snapping a photo. The years go by way too fast and I love documenting it all.
- Family is everything. I need nothing more, nothing less.
Welcoming my 30’s and the best years to come!